Psychologists’ research finds that most people are too conservative and too afraid of failure. What do you see about your decisions when you look in the mirror?
Tim Harford, in his new book, Adapt: Why Success Always Starts With Failure, argues that “the everyday rituals of life are carefully designed to ensure that people experience the painful sensation of failure as rarely as possible.”
The irony is that when we read about a high achiever in any field or see them interviewed on TV, they almost invariably mention how much they failed and how hard they worked to grow and improve – almost to the point of cliché.
Harford notes that becoming top of your game means being able to do two things that most people avoid:
Lastly, how often do you openly admit mistakes? Harford notes that “it is very hard to admit an error to ourselves – we would rather repeat it, in an act of self-justification.”
As I mentioned in the Paddi Lund article, most of us could apologise more often. It is not a sign of weakness – hardly anyone does it – it is a sign of courage, strength and honesty.
What would be a wise thing for you to do more? I know I plan to request more critical feedback from now on instead of just pats on the back for my ego.
Author: Matt Anderson, The Referral Authority, Author of Fearless Referrals www.TheReferralAuthority.com Copyright 2011.